“Change your beliefs to change your life”. It sounds far too simple to be true, but it is! However, simple doesn’t mean easy here. Realizing that our beliefs dictate our actions means we know that the success of our future is dependent on changing them. In this article, I’ll share with you the first step on how you can change your beliefs to change your life. After all, we realize that it’s our beliefs that create our life.
What if you could accomplish all of your goals and dreams in your life?
Let’s distance you from the physical reality of taking action for a moment. I know that sounds really unusual coming from me, when I talk a great deal about setting goals and taking tangible action on them in my coaching and blog posts. The action I’m discussing with you today is a quite a bit different, and just as important!
Commit To Change Your Life
We’ve gone to school to learn about math, language arts and science because this was the focus the world told us that we needed to have. For most of us, the growth simply stops there. We become tired and simply ready to make money, so we leave the learning mode behind and transition right into the “working” mode.
I can’t blame anyone, we need money to survive after all!
So here we are, years later feeling dissatisfied with how our life is shaping up and feeling like there must be more in life. This is where you have to say enough is enough, and commit right now to doing the inner work. Be bold and confident in your cause, and do a little work every day!
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Change Your Beliefs To Change Your Life: How To Eliminate Limiting Beliefs
The first step in eliminating beliefs is identifying them and confronting them. Once you are able to do this, you can move forward to creating more beneficial beliefs to aid you on your journey to success and abundance.
This is where the magic starts to happen. In some cases, it can drastically change your life almost instantly!
Think of that one closet that you have in your house, full of junk that no longer serves you. Most of us have one, even if it’s actually just one of the kids’ closets. You don’t want to “deal” with it, do you? Yeah, I’ve been there. Frankly, it’s a daunting and overwhelming task!
Unfortunately, the only way to ever have a clean closet is to open it and let the avalanche of junk fall out. Sure, it looks scary at first. Maybe some junk is even a bit painful to revisit. But just as your closet has to look worse before it gets better, so does your mind.
You’ll take the time to address what’s holding you back, IF you truly are committed to your goals. Most of the time, we know that we’re holding ourselves back, but we don’t want to delve into the inner work.
So how do you identify limiting beliefs? For starters, we can look at what we want and ask ourselves why we don’t have it or why we can’t have it. This is an indicator of what is holding you back. It’s the silly things that we have imprinted on our mind and chosen to believe.
A List or Examples of Limiting Beliefs
- Money doesn’t grow on trees. This is an example of the Scarcity Mindset – the trap of believing there’s not enough to go around.
- Money takes hard work to get.
- “All the men out there only want one thing,” say some single ladies.
- “There aren’t any honest and loyal women out there anymore,” lament some single men.
- Some people just aren’t dealt a good deck of cards in life and that’s because not everyone is destined to be successful. That’s a load of bull!
- I’ll get hurt if I dare to love someone.
- I have to yell if I want to be heard.
- Relationships are hard.
A great deal of limiting beliefs are rooted in the much bigger belief of “I am not enough“.
These beliefs come from being told or shown that we’re not enough in some way. People we’ve looked up to, expected love from, or cared about have a tremendous influence on us.
When we’re more vulnerable and impressionable, we see these experiences are personal attacks. Then, we attach them as part of our identity. Some examples of this include:
- I’ve never been smart enough.
- I’m not in good enough shape to be wanted.
- I’m unworthy of love.
- I can’t do it.
- I’m not smart enough.
- Nobody cares what I think.
- Bad things always happen to me.
- Divorce means failure.
- I’ll never live up to my parent’s expectations.
- I fail no matter how hard I try.
- People are out to get me.
Whatever the belief, it’s important to recognize them for what they are. Beliefs and nothing more. Circumstances and influences we’ve attached to our very being that we’ve accepted as fate. Why? Because doing that is more comfortable than taking responsibility for our power to change it.
A simple breakdown of the process to eliminate limiting beliefs…
- Determine if you’re using any of the circumstances around you as further proof to fuel this belief. This is a dangerous habit. It can make letting go of the belief more difficult, because it feels real. Ask yourself this: Does my life really HAVE to be this way forever, or am I allowing it to happen this way and being reactive?
- Determine if you’re holding on to the belief out of comfort. Fear of failing plagues many of us. Even if you believe you can successfully change, you know that the next step might be hard work of some kind. Or, just stepping into entirely unfamiliar territory. Either way is frightening, and it seems more comfortable to keep believing you just simply can’t do it.
- Create a brand new, healthier belief for yourself. It’s important to realize that forgiving and letting go of a negative belief isn’t enough to get rid of it forever. Treat your thought patterns like the habits they are. The most effective way to conquer a bad habit is to not only psyche yourself out of it, but to also replace it. Now, replace the negative belief with one that looks at things from a new angle. Ask yourself, “What would be a better way to think about this? What can be my ultimate truth instead?”
- Create the habit of seeking out evidence not to prove that tired old belief, but to prove your new one. What evidence can you see that proves your more abundant, ultimate truth is possible?
Now that you understand how to eliminate limiting beliefs, you can begin a smoother journey to your dreams. Without limiting beliefs holding us back, our power to create a brighter future is so much stronger and easier. Now that you’re aligning with your goal and not standing in your own way, the right people for your journey will find you. You’ll tap into the infinite source of abundance the universe has to offer you!