We all feel a longing to experience freedom, the kind of freedom that allows us to be who we truly are. The kind of freedom that gives us joy and happiness express ourselves in our own unique way. When you have the privilege of experiencing this bliss, then someone or something seems to take it from you… you’re soon left wondering how to get your mojo back.
If we’re lucky enough to know what it is that puts us in a “flow state”, then we are always excited to go back there so we can feel alive.
Do you know what makes you feel alive?
Everyday in some form or another, I feel as though someone is stealing my mojo. You know, like when you plan on doing something fun and it gets foiled or hijacked. It feels unfair to have your joy taken away from you for one reason or another.
I don’t blog about blogging, like ever but it’s a great example of someone stealing MY mojo. In the early stages of a blog and certainly over time as the blog becomes more famous, it’s expected to formulate your blog post with a certain amount of optimization so that people can find it.
Sounds reasonable. Of course we want people to find our blog post in the search engine but the downside as a writer is that we lose the freedom of expression when you have to write a certain way.
As a mother who just so happens to work from home as well as homeschool, I work in “interrupt mode” every-single-day. There’s no Father in the picture on a daily basis to help take the pressure off of me. It’s a wonder that I get anything done at all.
It would be so easy to go down that mind-numbing path to mental destruction and talk myself into depression. I could talk to myself about how I don’t have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. After all, there are constant reminders that I have to do things a certain way to accommodate others over and above what I want.
How to get your MOJO back!
I hear the stories of client’s and friends about how they are not in control of their lives. They feel as though they are living and working for someone else. When you take a look at how someone MUST attend meetings constantly at work, or they don’t have time for the gym because of the commitments to family, it becomes obvious that they could feel as though they have lost their freedom.
Does this make them feel lost, overwhelmed and sometimes even angry? You bet it does! Has life been hard on you lately? Do you think sometimes that your life is just not working and it’s time to change your life?
Your inner voice is speaking to you. It’s telling you that your life is passing you by and you need to start enjoying life and embracing what you have. Is your life on auto-pilot or are you numbing out by drinking excessively, or eating mindlessly?
It’s time to make some BIG changes and create some better habits!
Let’s Do THIS!
The first step is to identify the things that you perceive are stealing your mojo. Now ask yourself if you can bend on these things from time to time. Like in my writing for example. From a business stand-point, I will write my articles with optimization and other times I will simply write strictly from the purpose of joy and personal expression.
Now think of how important these things are to your life. If you are perceiving that the kids are getting in the way of you becoming the fit person you once were then you are setting yourself up for resentment, and feeling unfulfilled. Are the children important in your life? Of course they are! Is it important for you to gain a new habit of working out regularly? Of course it is!
What would your life look like if you could create balance between doing the thing that others want you to do which steals your mojo and creating new habits which help you to work in the things that give you joy?
For some people, it’s all doom and gloom and there’s no way out of a situation. A client felt trapped by having to work 50 hours a week to support his family but when I asked him if he liked what he does, he answered that he loves what he does and could do it morning noon and night.
Suddenly, he has a different meaning for why he’s working. Just a second ago, he was resentful of his job. Upset to be working so many hours. He gave it the meaning that he was “working HARD” for the family. Then, in the next breath, he realizes that he truly LOVES what he does. As it turns out, he could do it all the time.
The most powerful thing that you can do is to re-frame the situation. I may have to work as a single mom in interrupt mode constantly, but it was MY choice. I’m happy that I have the FREEDOM to do it.
When you feel that someone has stolen your MOJO, re-frame it. Flip it upside down, and give the situation a whole new meaning. Stop feeling resentful, it only leads into feeling unfulfilled. These are great habits that you can adapt right now but only if you have a strong inner mind.