Finding Love: What is preventing you from finding love?

Finding Love

Finding love is a wonderful thing and not to be abused, in fact it should be nurtured. For those seeking love often sabotage their efforts by believing some common myths. Make no mistake here, it’s quite a challenge to find true love if your beliefs are out of alignment and incorrect.

Learn About The Myths That Can Prevent You From Finding Love.

Finding LoveHave a look at the following myths and get a reality checkup for your own beliefs about finding love.

Clear your thinking by examining these common love myths:

  1. Your perfect partner will find you. There’s no evidence to suggest that fate plays a role in finding your ideal mate. The more responsibility you take for your life, the more likely you are to find a successful match.
  2.  Keep your eyes open and be prepared to act when the right opportunity comes along.
    • Who do you think will have more success: the person that goes out with a few new people each month that meet his criteria? Or the person that stays home on the couch and declares that he’ll leave his love life in the hands of fate?
  3. Playing hard to get is the way to a man or woman’s heart. Those that like to play games or have a lot of self-confidence can enjoy the chase. But most of us are attracted to those who show a genuine interest.
    • That doesn’t mean professing your love after the second date. But waiting a week to return a phone call will leave the other person assuming you don’t have any interest.
  4. Love will happen naturally. Love and relationships are hard work. It’s true that most great relationships are very easy in the beginning, but the beginning doesn’t last for long. One famous relationship expert stated, “Love isn’t a game. It’s a blood sport.”
    • What if your natural environment doesn’t have any suitable prospects? Love will never happen in this case until you step outside of your natural environment. Take control of your life.
  5. A great relationship is always 50/50. It will hardly ever be 50/50. Your partner will get sick, have a bad day, suffer a midlife crisis, and have the occasional bad mood. So will you. During those times your partner isn’t at his best, you’ll have to do more of the heavy lifting. Hopefully, the favor will be returned in the future.
  6. All the good men and women are already taken. Many of the good ones are taken, but many of the good ones are still out there. There are plenty of great people looking for someone just like you.
    • The pickings can get a little slimmer as you get older, but they’re out there. Unfortunately, they’re also more likely to be at home as they get older. Make yourself available by having an active life. Someone else will have the same strategy.

You’ll know in the first couple of dates if they’re the one. It’s easy to be excited during the first six months of a new relationship. This honeymoon period feels good, and your partner seems perfect.

The next six months are a more accurate test. There’s a chance that many of the same quirky behaviors that seem so charming in the beginning may start to grate on your nerves with time.

Real life starts to creep into your fantasy world, and you may even begin to lose sight of what made you fall for them in the first place.

If what seemed to feel like perfect chemistry in the beginning is starting to look more like you were just ‘caught up in the moment’… this is a sign that it’s just not meant to be.

But how do you tell if there’s hope, anyway?

If you’re still excited after six months, you can feel optimistic that you may have found a good match. Rather than a fight, or an exhausting one-sided effort, keeping the love alive should feel worthwhile and rewarding. If it does, you may have found the one!

If finding love has been an exercise in futility, perhaps your belief system is getting in the way. When your beliefs are accurate, you can create an effective course of action. Be proactive and keep a positive attitude. You never know where your perfect partner is hiding.

In closing, I’d like to provide a few affirmations to manifest more love in your life. Say these phrases so that your subconscious will absorb them.

“I love freely. Giving my heart is easy for me.”


“I embrace each moment that my love is returned.”


“Every relationship I’ve had to let go of was an opportunity to know myself better. I am grateful for the experience and open to new ones.”


“I am ready to move forward because I know that I deserve to know my perfect soulmate.”


“I believe it is my responsibility to embrace others who are unfamiliar with kindness. When I shower them with attention, they feel special. Being kind to others is one way to freely share my love.”

Finding love is a special thing and I want for you to embrace it if you have it in your life now but if you are still hoping that love will find you then here is a self refection for you to ponder…

  • Have you attached limiting beliefs about love to your life, either from your past or from outside influences?