In this post about why I quit my job, you will get some personal insight into my life. This makes me vulnerable but hey, that’s what blogs are all about. If you have ever wanted to quit your job, maybe my story will resonate with you and inspire you.
I didn’t quit my job because I didn’t like being a life coach, the truth is, I absolutely LOVE being a life coach. Rather I felt I could offer more here online than being face to face with clients ( I still do 1:1 private coaching though ). I enjoyed the rewarding aspects of life coaching each time I helped a client have a breakthrough or see them grow.
I didn’t quit my job because of the lack of income because it pays well.
I was going through a lot of personal changes at the time. Thinking back to when I owned my spa, I was just going down the divorce path to set the stage for you. It’s been a long journey. It was just unbelievable how easy it is to get absorbed in the work grind and how difficult it was trying to get the right flow with family life! I always worked very hard to find balance.
Finding balance was my biggest struggle!
All that I could think of was how I was not living life. Not really… I wasn’t doing what I wanted to do at any point. That was when I began my life coaching career. It was amazing being able to practice with my clients as they came into the spa for some grooming service. They were what got my life coaching business off the ground.
Picture this, I am in the business to help people and I am not happy. Go figure, right? You could say, “how could anyone be happy going through a divorce and taking care of kids by herself?” Well, you would be right. There were so many pieces to the puzzle for sure that contributed to my happiness or rather my lack of happiness.
As the years went on, I became more and more dissatisfied with my life. I wasn’t living to the fullest. What’s ironic was, this was EXACTLY what I helped my clients with.
I HAD to make a change.
So I did!
A drastic change!
After many souls searching, I sold the spa and took my life coaching business to the internet. If you know my history and have read my about me page, then you know that I’m no stranger to making a living online. This time it was going to be different. I was going to be fearless!
The kids and I moved to beautiful Oregon and wanted to commit to fearless living. I want the rest of my life to be the way I teach my clients.
Fearlessly!
With my clients (I no longer do one on one coaching), I teach the importance of clarity. While I was so busy working, working, and doing more work, I wasn’t clear on what I wanted. I was just like so many people who say…
“I want to be happy.”
Well, you can say that day in and day out but the truth is, if you don’t have absolute clarity, then you can’t find your happiness – no matter how hard you try!
Why did I quit my job?
• I wanted to be free
• I wanted my schedule to be my own
• I wanted to come and go as I pleased (oh, I covered that…three times…three different ways)
• I wanted to be with my kids more
• I wanted to homeschool my child (I homeschooled all of my kids through high school)
• I wanted to make a lot of money
• I wanted to help people become fearless!!!!
• I had something to tell the world
Why did I quit my job?
I went to a vineyard last Friday with a new friend for the entire day and didn’t worry about my business. It’s a great feeling helping people 24/7 and still being able to “have a life”. I wanted more passion for life! How on earth was I going to have a passion for life if I am so busy working and taking care of kids? It wasn’t going to happen!
This is living the laptop lifestyle…
I am now able to work from my laptop and take my little girl to the park. I can either be fully engaged with her at the pool or bring my laptop and develop more helpful products. As long as I have a laptop and a wifi connection, I’m living the laptop lifestyle.
Are you clear about your desired lifestyle?
It’s so important to be clear about what you want in life. Without spending time alone with yourself and asking the hard questions you won’t know what it is that will make you happy. I talk a lot about work and making money but for me, it’s about freedom and being able to live life to the fullest.
If you are struggling with some of the same issues, if some of what I said resonated with you, get out a piece of paper and draw a line straight down the middle. On the left side write down what is wrong with your life. Next, write on the right side of the line what you would like for your life. The flip side to the lifestyle that you have right now.
This isn’t an easy process. I remember my ex-husband saying “how do you know what you want if you don’t know what you want?”
I get it.
Talking to my clients, the number one aspect of this process that is so difficult is sitting down and taking the time to do this. It’s stopping work or shutting out the family when they are the very reason you need to make the change in the first place.
STOP and take the time to get clear right now! So if for you and do it for those you love.
I shared my story of why I quit my job, do you want to quit your job? Leave a comment telling me what’s important to you. You may not want to quit your job, tell me what you need to change to have more passion for life.
Excellent article! I really appreciate the way you explain having clarity. Having clarity for your dreams and desires is so SO important and something that I see a lot of people struggling with on a day to day basis – even myself!
I find that meditation is the best way to sort out my messy thoughts and find that clarity. Knowing every detail of what you want is the best starting point for setting immediate goals and making those baby steps toward getting it! We all have our excuses for why we don’t take this time, but the benefits I’ve seen from doing it seem to far outweigh the silly little “reasons” I wouldn’t 🙂
Good for you Ella! Keep working those baby steps! 🙂