Imagine waking up one day, I mean really waking up which makes you realize that your life is passing you by. What is it that happens to wake us up to this realization?
Is facing the year-in-review and seeing what has happened in the world making you introspective? Has there been a recent “perceived” failure in your own life that has woken you up? Is it your age that slowly crept up on you what makes you feel like life is passing you by?
How is this affecting your children and your income? Keep reading to the end. This issue is a lot deeper than it looks.
Every year, we hear about people who are embarking on a “New Years Resolution” – a mission to change some aspect of their life. That’s not what this article is about.
We don’t need yet another article that teaches us how to create a New Years Resolution, nor do we need ideas on how to stick to them. It’s time to look at the bigger picture: your legacy.
I Feel Like My Life Is Over
If you have ever read any of my articles then you know I love discussing these deep topics, and this blog post is no different. I am a believer that we should live our lives like we’re dying.
I reflect back on how I lived my life for others, and I think of all the wasted time. If I could go back and talk to the younger me, I would tell her to be more authentic. The sad part is, she would say to me, “I don’t know who I am!”, or “ I don’t know what is my purpose in life!”.
There was a time when all I cared about was being significant. I’m from a poor, dysfunctional family where physical contact, beyond abuse, was nonexistent. We rarely spoke to each other. No wonder I wanted to feel significant.
What ended up happening was my modus operandi of seeking to be heard. I just wanted to be noticed. This is certainly nothing unusual for a young adult.
Then marriage and kids changed my life forever. At that point, I hadn’t figured out who I was so I let the events of my life control me. Has this ever happened to you?
My wrinkles are evident and my skin elasticity is showing my age. It’s inevitable. Life has been passing me by.
“What do I have to show for it?” I ask.
It was seven years ago when I realized this and I never looked back. For all of the women out there who want more out of life, it’s time to wake up.
- What do you want your legacy to be about?
- Are you living your life for others?
- Is the real you hiding somewhere inside of you?
- Do you want to change the world with a business?
- Is your light shut down because of fear?
- Do you need to change your life but don’t know how?
I ask you… What is your life all about?
Knowing just where she was coming from, I asked her,”Do you feel like life is passing you by?” She said yes, so I told her…
Create a vision, a mission that will carry you beyond your wildest dreams. This mission is what will guide you to creating a lifestyle that is abundant and full of wealth. Inside of you somewhere is a strong, centered woman who knows what she wants. You just need to take the time to sit and plan it all out.
The guilt that women feel is a MAJOR aspect of our failure and one of THE biggest reasons we don’t take the time we need to discover ourselves fully. This guilt thing eats us alive and you know what? It’s truly exclusive to us women. Yes, that’s right, we are MASTERS of feeling guilty.
In order to feel more abundant, become wealthy and successful as well as stop living for others and stop life from passing us by, we NEED to stop the guilt complex.
This guilt prevents us from taking better care of ourselves because we give to others FIRST. Now, how abundant and successful are you if you put yourself last?! This guilt limits us from having and doing more in life because we feel bad for asking. We are just saying “I hate my life” and don’t do anything.
We often settle for less than what we really, truly want. What you’re really saying to the Universe and to others around you is that you don’t deserve more. Ouch!
It’s so painfully obvious that we as women need to find some inner strength, believe in our worth and ask for more out of life. This realization is what catapulted my business and strangely enough, MY INCOME! And even better than that! It is what came to be that has nurtured my own children.
When we settle like this, when we show our children that we don’t even think high enough of ourselves to live a healthy, abundant life, we are actually showing them that this is how to behave when they become adults.
What Should I do With my Life?
Finding your inner strength is always an option. Every woman has it, and each of us can use it for her own benefit. Do not be afraid of life, accept it with all of its difficulties and challenges. You just need to find opportunities that are all over you.
Embrace them and stop hating your life. There is always something or someone worth living.
Break the cycle ladies! Do it now before your life passes you by. Do it before your children pick up on it and model after you! You can change your life drastically by DECIDING that you won’t settle anymore. You can literally change the world by being a caring, loving role model to your children on how to truly love yourself!