Our minds are a powerful tool, and can be either the catalyst to our success or our one greatest obstacle. In this article, I’ll be sharing some mindset training tips so that you can learn what it takes to reprogram your subconscious for more success.
How is it that our minds can belong to us, yet be so capable of sabotaging us? A great many of our troubles can be summed up by two simple things: limiting beliefs and fear.
Fear seems like it should be such a simple thing to overcome. However, it’s important to understand that it affects us on a biological level. I’m not just talking about all the unpleasant sensations that can manifest as a result.
Humans are wired to fear change on an evolutionary level, because it’s a perceived danger to us. While this strong sense is nice to have in most cases, it actually hinders us nearly as often.
The Amygdala: Your biggest obstacle in Mindset Training
Within our minds, the fear response is powered by a portion called the Amygdala. From the earliest times of mankind, the amygdala has kept us safe from many dangerous things, like Sabre-toothed tigers.
It’s been responsible for keeping us together with our own tribes and what’s familiar, instead of venturing out into the unknown.
Familiar is safe. The path already traveled is safe.
Yet, somehow, humanity still grows. Why? Because having a powerful desire, and making that desire bigger than our fear of the danger along the way is all it takes to start resisting it.
We can break free of the beliefs that cage us when we open our minds to accept a new possibility – and to have a big enough drive to take the leap. We take the first step simply by changing “I can’t” into “How can I?”
Nature and nurture alike have an influence on our perception of the way the world works. We form beliefs about how things should be, and what our roles are in our respective worlds. For better or worse, we attach these beliefs to our very identity. These beliefs make up our life blueprint.
Mindset Training: You don’t have to be a slave to your past!
Often, we grow into an environment that shows us example after example of lack, limitation, or how much we’re “not enough” to those that matter to us. We can attach these to our identity, too.
A common example I see is this: Divorce shows a child that relationships don’t last forever. If that child sees the parent of the opposite sex as being mostly responsible for the relationship breaking apart, they may even form lasting limiting beliefs about people of that sex.
These experiences cause the child to fear forming any committed relationship at all. Watching a parent be cheated on can teach a child to never open their heart to vulnerability, because they will probably only just get hurt in the end, right?
Limiting beliefs don’t just stop at relationships, either. From a young age, we can be forming limiting beliefs about money, our gender roles, and as I mentioned earlier… even how the world itself works.
One of the most dangerous things we can affirm to the universe and ourselves is, “It is what it is”. We find ourselves saying this, sometimes even just on a subconscious level… nearly every single day.
- Men can’t love. They only care about sex, or they just don’t care at all.
- Women lie, cheat, and manipulate.
- Marriage never lasts. Why bother with commitment?
- Some people are born into riches. Some people are just better at money by nature. I wasn’t dealt a good deck of cards like that, so I’ll never be rich.
- Beautiful, slender, and fit people have it easier in this world than I ever will.
“It is what it is.”
This is a question I want you to ask yourself, too. Ask this question whenever you encounter any limiting belief. You have spent so much of your life seeing the evidence that reaffirms your limiting beliefs. Now, you need to do the opposite.
Where can you look to find evidence that it doesn’t have to be that way? Better yet, can you find any of that proof in your own life?
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The Scarcity Mindset: There is never enough
Growing up without much money may lead a child to believe that there is never enough. Growing into poverty with little to eat, this is something I struggled with myself. I encountered more proof of lack in my life later on, when I found myself selling guns to put food on the table.
Hearing comments like “Don’t spend all your money in one place” prepare a child for the possibility of not making any money at all after spending it, something that doesn’t have to be their truth at all. “Money doesn’t grow on trees” instills a sense of scarcity.
This sense of lack is what’s called the Scarcity Mindset. This mindset is the habit of subconsciously creating ‘blinders’ to wear whenever you’re dealing with, thinking about, or talking about money.
These blinders keep you focused on the familiar: the lack you’ve been shown. They keep you from seeing new realities.
Even worse, people have grown into the belief that ‘money is the root of all evil’. They believe that money is what corrupts the biggest and baddest influences in politics or gigantic corporations.
This is my cue to ask you my favorite question of all: Does that have to be the ultimate truth?
The Scarcity Mindset has become habit. As you may already know, one of the best ways to reverse a habit for good is to replace it. Your next step to overcome your scarcity mindset is to seek out proof that proves it wrong instead.
Do you believe that you can’t spend all of your money in one place? Create your own proof that you really can splurge a little here and there. Set aside ‘splurge money’ in your budget. Give yourself a little taste of what it’s like to have plenty.
When you hear your parents say ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’ in your mind, say instead, “There is plenty for everyone. There is always room for me to have more. I can tap into the infinite abundance any time I want.”
When you hear yourself saying that money is the root of all evil, seek out evidence of people who use it for good. Look for inspiration on ways you can use it for good someday, too.
Are there limiting beliefs that you’ve accepted in your life? What do you choose to believe instead, RIGHT NOW? Let me hear you say it loud and proud in the comments below!
At times, our past works a lot to define our current life but for sure, when we rid ourselves from our past and start thinking positively, we can stand against ill mindsets and do what we have to do without fear.
I think power and desire are some of the most dangerous things in the world. You have to have a nice balance and humbleness of both. This post made me thin!
I attended a conference about abundance (and to some extent the scarcity mindset) once. Bottomline, if you think you lack something, you’re going to lack in it! We need to be open and have an attitude of gratitude (and hey, it rhymes lol)
This is an excellent post! I believe that sometimes people become consumed with the past and how the past is affecting them in the present. This can make it difficult to move forward.
Very thought provoking article. I have a strong will and I am very confident on the things I can do. I struggle with self image though.
To get what we want needs aggressiveness in proper balance. Also have faith and patience for all things.
Mindfulness is such a great life skill to have! Learning to take time away, to just be still and allow peace to enter in is so crucial.
I think our past has a large impact on our personality, it defines our perspective and affects the decisions we take. However, it is important to let go of the past and program our minds to embrace what lies ahead. Great post!
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Yes to both questions. Nobody is perfect. For example, life always seems easier for the extreme socialite types.
The mind is one of the most powerful parts of ourselves… Without a strong positive mind we cannot do much (it all starts with mental strength). No one is perfect and we must learn to accept this and bounce back/move forward. We have to find that balance to learn from our past yet not let our past hinder us and allow us to grow. love this topic ; )
Experiences from the past shapes a person’s future decisions. It is important to let go off a bad past and look forward to new experiences and challenges that future has in store. Loved your post, really thought provoking!
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